“Nothing confuses a woman like a broke man who is good in bed,” tweeted Cindy Maloba, the other day. No statement ever carried so much weight, such sheer truth since 2000 than this one. Socrates should have said it.

We always sneer at some women, questioning what they see in some men who look like emaciated butchers in Dagoretti. You don’t know the whole story. Don’t be too quick to judge. I know a number of women who lost their heads and endured really abusive relationships because the man gave them the sex of their lives.

They hanker for it for the rest of their lives. In life, there is no substitute for good sex, period. Anytime a woman encounters those rare men who know how to explore and experiment with their bodies, allowing them to reach the metaphysical realms of human passion that sex brings, they will be willing to stay in the relationship, however abusive the man can be.

Women can stand any bullshit from a man as long as he is good in bed. To paraphrase what Sommore, the African-American comedian says in her stand-up act, It Don’t Have To Be Big To Be Good, women don’t mind men who are less endowed. But such men must learn to talk to women in lower voices and be humble. It is the well-endowed who have a free pass to be verbally aggressive and arrogant and women can take it (disclaimer: not all well-endowed men are A-class performers between the sheets).

I have seen A-students in med school date fellows studying anthropology. I know women in the corporate world who drive their German machines along Outering Road to Pipeline at night for some bedroom action in a dingy 8th floor apartment with wet clothes dripping from the ground floor to the sky. Good sex knows no class.

Nairobi now teems with broke men who live off their ability in the sack. There are enough career women, both married and single, who have hit that phase in life when sexual frustration sets in. Men in their class are probably too busy to satisfy them or busy chasing after younger, naïve women in college. These women have limited options besides reaching out to the broke playboys.

What a broke man lacks in the bank, he can make up for by hitting the gym (even carrying stones in his backyard in the slum counts) and getting that chiseled body. After 50 Shades of Grey, the broke man needs to watch all the best A-rated porn to know the moves, the best places to touch, the right move and pace, and the best buttons to press and he will stay winning.

There are two classes of women here. The young woman in her early 20s who is about to meet the man who will unleash the full fury of his loins into her. This man automatically becomes her first true love that she will fantasize over for the rest of her life. But I am keen on women in their late 20s and 30s, with more sexual needs that come with age.

A number of these women are keeping men purely as studs. The man need not be intellectual, handsome or any of those superficial stuff that women crave for when they are young and full of naïve idealism. As long as he can be a beast in bed and is hung like a horse, the man will have his bills taken care of, until he misbehaves.

And man, a woman hooked on your game can do everything for you. Go the whole nine yards to make sure that you are comfortable. Whether it is cereals for breakfast you want, her car to ride around, or any toy, she will spare no cost.

In a city with runaway inflation like Nairobi, we need these nature’s balancing act. It used to be many girls who were kept in Lang’ata and South B apartments by air-headed yuppies and dirty old rich men. Now the number of men under similar arrangements is on the rise. They live off their bodies, have no ambition whatsoever other than maintaining their six-packs, getting tattoos, treating their dreadlocks and driving the cougar’s car.

Some do have impractical dreams like being rappers (at 32!) or business moguls. But the woman will invest so much money in them until they realize the men’s brains are not as great as their manhoods.

But I find the idea of women paying for good sex highly flattering. Equality, indeed!

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