If you are a man and God gave you the grace to marry, I hereby wish to congratulate you.

If you are not 60-yrs old and above please keep this message in your sub-conscious and if you are 60 years and above go on retirement from Home Affairs. Know that there is no second term for you as the Governor/Head of the family.

Some people are very lucky in the sense that they married submissive & coperative wives; some married fairly resistant / rebellious wives while some married "highly ambitious, ruthless, eletekete, alabosi, snake under the grass wives who are already laying or plotting to lay claim and demanding for equal rights in their marriage.

Unknown to men, some wives plot against their husbands right from day one of their wedding. Unfortunately they are like vultures, very good at the waiting game even if for 100 years.
They wait until all their children grow up before they start to show their true colours.

Wives are good actors: against their wish, some wives can be very intentionally obedient and submissive. When they do this they are only counting years left before they take over and start to deal with you.

Some wives will turn their husbands to lions against their children at home always compelling him to punish the children for every wrong/assumed wrong doings, justifiable or unjustifiable. Any attempt to refuse, you will be tagged a weakling; thus planting seed of discord & enmity between men and their children.

In the absence of the husbands, wives are sometimes different beings to the children. They sometimes become extraordinarily nicer than Angels.

Something that was mutually agreed by husband and wife, that the children would not be allowed to do, let them approach the wife, she will direct them to the husband for approval of which she knew will not be given. She may then turn around to say since your father said NO; then it is NO. By so doing, she is cementing the discord between the father and his children.

Children hardly forget whatever was done to them at certain ages of their lives (formative ages).

Now that you are 60 years of age and above, change your position with that of your wife unless you want the song "a ti gbe Baba rele" sang for you pretty soon.

You should know that from certain ages women have discussions with their children and determine what they want happened in the family before you are informed. If you opposed their decision, it will further put you in greater difficult position and unfortunately they will still go ahead with their resolve. Woe betides you, if you are *not* financially very strong.
The best you can do is let them know that you, probably would have done it differently but let them know that you agree with their decision 100%, nonetheless since your disagreement will amount to nothing.

Should any of your children ask for an opinion on anything, do not give any until you discussed with your wife. You can also ask the one in question what he or she would have done. The information will inform the advice that you will give.

In your own interest, eat whatever food prepared or suggested by your wife as long as you know it's not injurious to your health. Don't touch any food that is outlawed for you in the house. If you are still in the habit of compelling your wife for particular foods, you will soon die of hunger.

Learn to do little things by yourself, don't wait until your wife starts to take french leave to her children's houses for Babysitting.

Do not ever demand money from your children, let it be at their free will. They supposed to know that they should be of help to you when God has settled them. At least something though token but reasonable on AN IRREGULAR basis.

If you are lucky that your children send you money make sure you share it with your wife. Know that the money may not have come without her subtle pleading or tacit approval on your behalf.

As you age, do not deceive yourself, you are no more in control. Your time as the Chief Executive Officer (Ceo) of the house has expired. Do not allow frustration or depression to kill you. You are only a worker that worked to feed the family within your capacity, you were naturally employed to train the children (without wages and was sacked without compensation). Having performed your duty, you are expected to hand over to the subtle but the Real Ceo of the house; the wife, at the appropriate time.

You cannot use force of power to assert your headship of the family throughout your life time. Life is turn by turn. At this crucial time of your age, it's God's wisdom rather than force of power that you need.

If you missed it before, do not miss it now, if you are praying to live long, to reap whatever is allowed you from the fruits of your labour go on retirement from Family Affairs because age is no more on your side, beside you are no more as relevant, as feared and respected as the Head of the house as you were several years back.
Let your register of family affairs be: that's good, that's fine, you are doing well, I am proud of you, your decisions are always good. At least if you had died they will live their lives.

It's a mistake to say that women are of the weaker sex. They are embodiment of Etekete & abosi (at times very dangerous & wicked intrigues).
The FEAR of Wife Woman is the beginning of assured old age enjoyment and possibly long life. God help we Menfolks (Husbands).

*Copied From Married Men's Fellowship*.